How to Deal with Mean People

It all started when I received an email from a 15 year old young man dealing with an unknown disease.  In his email he mentioned how people are much meaner and critical these days and it’s really hard for him to make friends.  As a result, he fells a sense of unworthiness, despair and loneliness.

Why he emailed me

He reached out to me because he was familiar with my daughter’s story and he wanted to heal naturally.

In case you don’t know

When my daughter was 13 years old, she was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer.  We decided not to pursue chemo or radiation. Instead she healed herself naturally.  More info.

Here’s what I told him

People can be really mean, but here’s what they don’t realize.  When they are mean to you, they are actually telling you how they are feeling on the inside about themselves.  Don’t take it personally.  It has nothing to do with you.

Have you ever heard of the expression … it takes one to know one?

They know it and that is why they are saying it. When they are critical of you, I want you to remember they are really being critical of themselves.

As it turns out

They are sharing a secret with you and they don’t even realize it.  You are a mirror for them.

If you are triggering them and they become critical of you, it’s their problem not yours.

Think about it

You are not doing anything wrong.  You don’t have to absorb any of the negative words because none of them are meant for you.

Here’s what to do

Next time someone gets triggered by you or criticizes you, try to feel compassion for them because you’ll know the pain they are dealing with.  It takes practice.

Here’s the flip-side

When you get triggered, the other person (who’s triggering you) is your mirror.  When that happens, you need to look deep within yourself and do the inner work.

May I ask …

Could you please provide some words of encouragement for this young man in the comments below? I would love to hear from you.


Maria Sherow is an experienced past life regressionist specializing in QHHT® serving the Big Island of Hawaii.   QHHT® (Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique) is the process of communicating directly with your Higher Self using a breakthrough past life regression method developed by Dolores Cannon to facilitate emotional and physical healing.

She is passionate about the QHHT® work because she sees the importance in healing others as well as a tool to gather lost historical knowledge.  She looks forward to helping you find the many answers that may be hidden in your past lives.  For more information or to schedule a session, please visit

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One thought on “How to Deal with Mean People

  1. Dan Escobar says:

    As a word of encouragement to him I would say have faith, no experience as bad it may be comes without something positive. I was diagnosed too with a then rare disease when I had 16-17 and it affected my confidence and social life tremendously. The worst was feeling alone and even my own family believed it was all in my head despite it’s recognized then as a disease by the FDA.

    That led me to start meditating and learning buddhism, started learning natural health by myself and from great men and women who showed me what really gets us sick. What I learned can’t be quantified but it has been part of maturing. Without this experience I’d miss that knowledge and still be relying on doctors instead of myself for improving my health.

    Have faith, you’re on the right track contacting Mrs. Sherow, you’re on a path of discovery that will marvel you, be patient and always think by and have confidence in yourself, do your own research. That will be one of the best skill you can learn for your future.

    You will always face rejection and disbelief, even contempt from your peers and even your family, mankind can be mean and instinct driven sometimes. Use it as a motivation for your own personal and spiritual growth and as example of what behavior not to repeat. No one will pat you on the back for your achievements, the cavalry won’t come. You only can rely on yourself but the harder it is to achieve something the more satisfying it will be when you achieve it. And that will be the best kind of happiness, the one that depends only on your own skills and the cultivation of your mind.


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